it’s bad for everyone.
When I’m using Tinder, I completely delete and remake my account every few weeks because the app gives a massive boost to your visibility for the first few days so you get more matches and get addicted to it. After that your matches slow down and you are incentivized to pay for “premium” features like… More visibility.
For an average-looking guy, it makes a big difference
I did this too, and it has the funny side effect of matching with the same handful of people every time, and exchanging a couple “How’ve you been?” Messages before still not going on a date
and exchanging a couple “How’ve you been?” Messages before still not going on a date
I guess they are waiting for you to make the first move. lol
OkCupid started out as some kind of student project and actually worked really well. Online dating wasn’t any worse than any other dating until it was monetized and optimized for engagement.
I have a colleague who met their wife through OKC, someone in my family did as well, and they went to work there as a result just before Match bought them. He watched it destroy the service in realtime, apparently it was so bad that he rejected capitalist modes of production in all things subsequently.
I actually met someone I matched with on tinder for the first time yesterday and it was a pretty boring meeting.
I’ve decided my new tinder strategy is to cut the crap and just ask the person out as soon as possible.
But yeah also all those apps I think make people antisocial
I’ve decided my new tinder strategy is to cut the crap and just ask the person out as soon as possible.
Literally the only good strategy for a man on dating apps. It filters out any women just looking for attention. Ask them out for a low stakes date like grabbing coffee or a drink at a bar.
Even if they have the best of intentions, it’s best to ask them on a low-stakes date at the end of your initial conversation. Until you meet someone in person you aren’t going to know if you’ll hit it off no matter how much texting you do. All waiting does is delay the “do we like each other in the flesh?” moment.
I’m talking to a girl on OKCupid who’s nice and she hasn’t tried to sell me anything yet so it’s not all terrible
I used that app years ago. It definitely had its own culture that was kind of 00’s pseudo hipster I’m the quirkiest. Still better than the smoke cigarettes behind the dive bar vibe of PoF.
PoF is just so fucking barebones it’s useless. I’m not paying for OKC or even using their app, but still managed to match with a few girls. One I’m messaging now is kinda geeky and is gonna be working at the ren faire next month.
As for the vibe I never tried Tinder or Hinge or any of those other ones and the reviews for the apps all say they suck now and fleece you so hard you can’t actually use them unless you’re a premium subscriber or some shit, and I’m fucking broke so I’d rather spend that money on a gym membership, which is far more likely to make me feel good about myself and get some attention from the ladies
