What no aftercare does to a motherfucker.
Kinda seriously though, without the system of care and communication around it, power play and rough sex can be pretty harmful and if someone doesn’t want to take the effort to do that care, yeah maybe they do have something going on.
Shit, my partner and I need proper aftercare just after normal, loving sex. Going without after rougher stuff sounds miserable
my bf and i are very in tune at this point, he aftercares the fuck out of me and it helps with my ptsd so much. without my bf i dont know where id be :left-unity-4:
he sometimes brings me chocolate and feeds it to me… idk if anyone knows this but chewing can help with post sex ptsd symptoms. he sometimes catches my ptsd before i do, i love him so much
Huh, makes sense though. A lot of people chew gum to help with nerves. Something about doing the action of eating associating with being safe?
That’s right, tell me my kink is dirty. Yeah it’s dirty and bad. Oh god yes. It stems from a major emotional pathology. That’s it, I’m almost there.
if a dom needs to be in control, it’s because of some narcisistic god complex that makes them think they’re better than others
:data-laughing:
most doms i’ve had fun with have been UwU smoll beans outside the bedroom/woods
if a sub feels they need to be controlled, it’s because they feel inferior to other people
motherfucker, have you met me?
I knew a guy a decade ago who was a stock broker, freemason, and LaVeyan Satanist (I’m not joking about any of this: he was a member of the local freemason lodge, had picked up Satanism when he was in highschool, and one of the last conversations we had was about how he’d just been licensed as a stock broker) who was obsessed with the idea of acquiring power and wealth, and was also the most aggressively open sub I’ve ever seen.
:sicko-fem: And now we're going to put your entire Robinhood account balance towards $BBBY...
:yes-honey-left:
famously nobody ever wanted to have consensual vanilla sex with someone they otherwise hate or abuse
The sub/dom dynamic only works with strong communication. Limits and boundaries. It’s a fun game. But with every game there needs to be rules.
This. I only have experience subbing for other trans girls, and tbh i don’t think i could even establish that level of trust with a cishet guy, but my experience is that kinksters are the best at things like enthusiastic consent, establishing boundaries and communicating openly about what you want. D/s play has really shown me how to make my sex life healthier, more fun and more respectful towards me and my partners even completely outside of a BDSM context, simply by making these experiences with somebody who communicates such intimate things so openly.
Also, there’s nothing better like good aftercare.
