I only have one close male friend, and while I will open up with him occasionally he’s also the most mentally healthy person on earth and while I love him to death he really struggles to relate to my problems. Most of my close friends are women.
I don’t have a lot of friends rn but I’m comfortable doing that often with all of them (mostly men). I think it’s cuz most of them are furries and that subculture tends to reject the strain of masculinity that insists men can’t be vulnerable or seek emotional support. I need to make more time to see my friends though. We’ve all been so busy lately. It sucks how many people in this thread have had an opposite experience.
I’ll just say that as a man, you are taking a gamble everytime you make yourself emotionally vulnerable to another man. It could ruin your reputation or the relationship. It is a very unfortunate state of affairs.
The more you do it, the easier and better it gets, because it becomes less and less of a hurdle, and you end up with more people to draw on/absorb the fall if you
In high school I was boxed into a very performative masculinity and got negative reactions when I stepped outside it. These days, the worst experience I’ve had in this category was a roommate feeling awkward when I told him about my friend who’d just died.
I have one close male friend, but for the most part my friendships with women have been the most mutually supportive and rewarding, stretching back to my early adolescence.
This is making me rethink my life lol
A lot of my close friends throughout life (even when I was younger) were women, and that was really the only time I was vulnerable. My con is with my guy friends have always been very surface level and quite boring (except for when we have been drunk or not sober)
