My buddy dated a girl for 3 years, lived with for 2 years. They broke up and he started a new relationship after 5 months of being single. Too quick? That seems too quick.

Personally, I like to wait a year or two before getting into a new relationship. I just really enjoy the time off. I’m not passing judgement upon him, he can date whenever he wants and I won’t give any grief. I just want to analyze this difference in each other’s personalities and learn something.

Maybe I’m too high?

There’s no answer I think. But I sort of did this in my past and my therapist told me o struggle with separation anxiety and/or issues of co-dependency.

But then again, the relationship I “jumped into” post-break up has lasted almost 10 years and I’m marrying the girl. She literally woke me up to the smell of scones and coffee this morning ❣️… soooo

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Bro, I fuck with Scones and Coffee

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:stalin-heart:

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But then again, the relationship I “jumped into” post-break up has lasted almost 10 years and I’m marrying the girl.

Good rebound gang

Smart idea doing the ten years and then marriage instead of the other way around.

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I don’t think there’s a cut and dry answer for this. It really depends on their relationship and their feelings, and how long it took your friend to get over their ex partner. Some people can feel happier with others around, while others prefer being alone more.

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eh, the pandemic has distorted a lot of things and made people more isolated. I could understand being a bit faster under these conditions

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I’ve heard the rule of thumb as half the relationship, but then also there is the concept of a rebound

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