DreamsOfDeadFutures [any]
In hindsight, just google Turkish etiquette rules. They have a highly ritualized and formally laid set of guidelines to politely express the degree of hospitality and politeness you intend to give/are comfortable to receive (this does not apply to Vienna). It serves as a good primer on how and why hospitality customs come to be and the purpose they serve. As a rather non typical individual, having all those rules helps.
I think there is a fundamental misunderstanding here. The first refusal is for the sake of the guest acknowledging that hospitality consumes resources and therefore in addition to the politeness of offering there is also a politeness to giving an out. The second offer and second response are the only real ones.
oh and lpease reply with however you see fit if a claimgoes through or want a hint i guess
damn, thats fucked. My BIL taught me car repair on the driveway of a suburban condo while stripping down and refurbishing a super fucked up drift rocket he got for cheap. Kinda place that would totally call the cops on us if they knew it was illegal.
Tool libraries should be a thing, they could have a garage with jacks and stuff.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fujian_tulou
apartment style housing is in no way contradictory with rural living or farming. The Hakka people have been using packed earth techniques to construct ecologically sustainable communal housing divided into what could be considered apartments.