Trying to get people to change problematic behaviour, language, or opinion through yelling, or shaming is ineffective most of the time. Obviously I can’t expect people who belong to minorities to not be angry, not everyone can be Daryl Davis, but if you are white and don’t have a personal trauma, you should use more effective methods to correct people’s problematic behaviour.

Source: I was able to get my family to stop using the N word, and even my elderly father who doesn’t actually remember that it’s bad to use the N word has stopped using it thanks to this very simple technique: every time he says that word, stop the conversation and explain why this word is harmful and dangerous to use, don’t let them steer the conversation back. Being visibly angry with them will only make them dig in their heels and seek comfort with other people who are racist, making it more difficult to get them out.

Eventually they will subconsciously stop using that word, simply because this causes the conversation to be interrupted every time. So while I don’t punish them (can’t exactly tell my father to go to his room or something), the repeated inconvenience of having the conversation halted every time will get it in their head eventually.

I think this is the most effective method to correct problematic behaviour in adults.

I am in favour of transhumanism, but I would only want a neural implant if it’s fully open source and not connected to the cloud. It also must not break the skin, because I don’t want infections, especially near my brain.

Infinity for Reddit was my favourite Reddit client, and now that Infinity has a Lemmy fork I use it exclusively.

Not less than Jerboa from my experience, very few crushes… There is a bug that if you refresh a thread twice in a row it crashes, but other than that easily avoidable big it hasn’t crashed for me once in either 0.0.6 or 0.0.8.

I have tried Thunder as well, but I just like the GUI of Infinity.

I know what industry they work at, but if they switched to a different employer, I might only find out months or years later sometimes because we almost never talk about work outside of work unless someone asks for advice.

Birthdays are actually quite easy, every time I learn of someone’s birthday, I put it on an app called Birday and I get a notification two weeks before their birthday. Before that, I missed people’s birthdays regularly.

I know if they are single/have a partner/married, have kids or not, or are divorced, but I might not know if they have had an argument with their partner and are sleeping on the couch or something.

At the same time, I have a lot of personal things I don’t share with anyone, and I don’t expect them to share it with me. I just prefer it this way.

I’m glad we have so many choices, I can always easily switch clients whenever I want.

These are possibly related. I am absolutely terrible at sensing people’s emotions around me and understanding body language, and not so coincidentally, I am absolutely terrible at writing dialogue.

Same here on the lucid dreams, I didn’t even know it had a name, and I was surprised when people said that they don’t control their dreams.

But the hiccups… Mate, you’re a wizard.

I’ve been eyeing their screwdriver for a while, but I don’t want to give Linus my money after seeing this… Wanna sell it to me? I don’t care if it has any minor damage from regular use.

Edit: After the whole Madison thing, it leaves a really bad taste in my mouth… Nevermind the screwdriver, I’ll just buy a megapro or something…