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I was so fricken stressed five years ago when I got divorced because of all the noise. A year later I had full custody and I didn’t have to do anything other than be present for them and be willing to take on the full burden of their care, school, doctors, housing, meals, clothes, etc. Their mom eventually moved a long distance away a couple years later so they don’t get to see her much which kind of sucks but I wonder how many whiny ass fathers actually walk the walk vs flapping their jaw.
Existing without my consent (consent can be revoked at any time).
I had a similar thought about her being black but based on the cop being a racist piece of shit, it didn’t really click for me that the commentator is also a racist piece of shit right away.
I would not be surprised in any way if life similar to earth existed, exists, or will exist along the exceedingly large time frames and scale of ‘every planet’. Aliens as theorized by any earth based life form I have any familiarity with is rooted in the same exact baseless bullshit that religion is.
I don’t mind as much when supporting equitable efforts but it always bugs me when anyone claims something wouldn’t exist without X like nobody else contributed and/or advancements wouldn’t have been made without a specific individual and I feel like their are more constructive ways to communicate the significant value of women without the absurd claim that the web wouldn’t exist without the specific contributions from a very small subset of individual women in a field with many brilliant minds.
Thanks Obama
I trained myself over years after realizing stress was killing me, I was unpredictable to be around, and struggled to eat with any regularity which led to really bad eating habits.
What ended up working is when something would happen that upset me I would close my eyes, take a deep breath, go to a room by myself and just sit down with my eyes closed and do box breathing until my nerves settled. Then when I opened my eyes I would say to myself, ok let’s go get this mud cleaned up.
Admittedly it doesn’t work in a car, crowded location, or even work necessarily. Over years my impulse control and roll with the punches attitude really developed. Maybe too much, when my ex wife said she wanted a divorce it was kind of just an “ok, do you want me to move out or did you plan to? I’ll see what paperwork we need to fill out “.
I enjoy life so much more though. My dog peed in the laundry room shortly after coming inside and I remember a time when I would have been incredulous about it. My response was to chuckle and say “oh buddy you know not to pee inside”, grap a swiffer and throw the pad in the load of wash I was starting.
Maybe I just got older, life experience and all that. I do think the separation from what happened and box breathing exercise really helped me in being able to put things into context and just let life be life though.