Conscientiousness - plan the life you’d like to have. You get to have what you want and what would be good for you. What would that be? You need direction. It is direction that produces primary positive emotion. If you need positive emotion to get through life (which you do, because you can’t even move without positive emotion, positive emotion is a good bulwark against terror and pain) if you need those things you need direction, you need a goal, you need a value structure.
Disagreeable men won’t do anything they don’t want to do. They just say, “up yours. I’ll go home and play video games,” and “why should I work for you? I’ll just go have fun. I’ll do my own thing.” If you take the men who are like that and say, “What do you want? You can have what you want, but you have to figure out what it is.” So they write down what they want and they think, “Oh, hey, that might be worth having, so maybe I’ll put some effort into it.” Responsibility. That’s what gives life meaning. Lift a load. Then you can tolerate yourself.
