I personally do not experience sexual attraction at all until I know someone very well and have a pretty intense bond with them. I didn’t experience sexual attraction until I was about 23 and was really freaked out when it happened.

I think asexuality is pretty firmly under the umbrella of “queer” for me, and the dual attraction model helped me understand my sexuality for the first time in my life well after most people have had their sexual awakening. But I’m not sure how long that language has existed in its modern form. Not long, I don’t think. So the shared history is thinner.

i was referring to demigender, but I figure demisexuality would be like the rest of the ace spectrum where a bunch of people are but never have the introspection or vocabulary, and could comfortably live their entire life fitting in well enough to avoid external pressure on their identity.

Same is true if you’re mainly attracted to the opposite sex, just never really question the outliers

IME, this is incredibly true. Most of the people I had crushes on when I was young were girls, but then I’d be reading a book and there’d be a very erotic scene between two men and I’d be very intrigued and then the next day at school I’d be daydreaming about some girl, and to me this just felt like normal straight boy before. A decade+ later it’s obvious to me that primarily attracted to the opposite sex is in fact different from only attracted to the opposite sex. If I were a youth today would I recognize that already? I think maybe, some of it is introspection but a lot is a increased level of dialogue and understanding about these topics.

right, we’re not primed to examine ourselves like that and if you fit in there’s no pressure to do so either. Doesn’t mean I experienced gender before I realized that I don’t experience gender. So I wonder about other peoples’ unexamined internal being.

Or if you think a famous person is hot who is not the opposite, but not actually CARE about that fact, as you probably will never meet them, or attraction to someone who is non-binary.

I think as more non-traditional hot people gain greater visibility, the masses will also move along the kinsey scale.