I don’t think I’ve said anything that counters what you’ve just stated, so I’m not sure what you disagree on exactly. Yes, abortion is good. I think we have the same reasons for supporting it. I also think abandoning your child is very shitty, but we have to admit that it will still sometimes happen.
Let me bring it back to my friend whose partner abandoned her late in her pregnancy. He was likely to always do this. If he had incentive to tell her in the first few weeks instead, when she still still could have had an abortion, wouldn’t that have been better? I’m not saying her decision entirely would have depended on that, but if our system is going to be such a failure at collecting child support from these shitty neglectful parents, can’t we at least encourage them to do that in a time frame that allows the carrier to plan for that?