“a lot of [big gay] is problematic and there is a big lack of accountability/responsibility in [big gay] spaces and it’s not wrong for people to be wary of it.”

moral panic about the big gay intensifies

yeah, obviously if other spaces are problematic and lack accountability, the correct response is to do better :banana-duck:

Firstly, I am coming from the perspective of someone who was active in the fandom for several years, got sexually/psychologically abused, and had an artist use their clout to silence me. I have met several other victims who have suffered similarly. This kind of thing has been a problem in the community for decades, especially because the content appeals to young and curious lgbt people.

I know my experience paints my opinion of the fandom. In my opinion it’s a fandom that glorifies parasocialism and emotional disassociation. Diverting emotional responsibility through avatars is the best way I can describe it.

If ppl want to have a furry community here IDGAF because I won’t participate, but I couldn’t help but be annoyed when I saw “disliking the furry fandom” equated to “hating queer people”.

Is that a good reason to create a better space here?

Yes it’s a fantastic reason, actually