love to die
Eh I kinda understand her thinking. Someone like that probably thinks “I’m probably fucked regardless, at least I’m gonna spend thanksgiving with my family”. Many old people are depressed enough to think like that, seeing their family is the only thing a lot of them have left.
I know, right? It is a completely understandable sentiment that I empathize with. This isn’t some 20-something shrugging, ignoring reality, and disregarding any concern for the well-being of other people because they want to go to a beach party. It sounds like this woman isn’t long for this world regardless, but if she wants to increase her risk in order to be with the people she fucking loves before she dies then far be it from me to ridicule or chastise her for that.
Putting the scare quotes around “experts” is a little telling, and I hope the family does everything possible to limit the risk, but under the circumstances described, I’d not be taking the recommendation to isolate either tbh.
thats the thing, they could still meet and try their best, but the “experts” part tells me they are fine with murdering gram gram and any inconvenience is not worth her life
Yeah my grandma who doesn’t have internet has been really struggling. Usually there’s a big thanksgiving gathering at her place but obviously that isn’t happening this year and she’s taking it hard. There’s a lot of family locally around her so people check in on her frequently and we’ve offered to come bring her to our place for thanksgiving so she doesn’t have to spend it alone, but she still wants to stay in and see if people will drop by. I dunno, shit sucks for her she I can relate, I spent like 6 months alone in lockdown but at least I had the internet and the socializing that offers.
Dude all I’m gonna say is that I know how bad it is for old people when they get isolated and stuff, and I really I hope you figure something out.
Yeah, but how would you feel if you were the person who brought the virus to her?
Like shit, obviously. It’s a big concern for me since I am forced to live with parents and it stresses the shit out of me. But I understand her thinking. I think if I had the option I’d go BUT before doing it I’d spend at least two weeks far away from human contact and when I did go I’d be super careful never to go too close. But yeah, I totally understand it. And you know what? After my grandmother got Alzheimer’s and died, I felt guilty I wasn’t there enough, because I know how happy it made her.
I’m sorry for your loss. I don’t know you and I never knew your grandmother, but if she loved you as much as you loved her, she would not want you to feel guilty.
