alright gang, we need another win over the news mega this week! keep those numbers up and keep being trans as hell
As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It’s for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
Wrote a gender thing in an older thread I just found if anybody wants to read it and compare notes or something
Wish it wasn’t the case that a thread barely more than a week old is perceived as old enough that people worry about how it will be perceived (not that I don’t worry about it when I do it). Generally not a fan of the blanket distaste for “necroing” old threads: some threads can still have value long after they’re made.
Thanks for sharing! Its interesting how many people here are in the “not a guy” camp. I intentionally wrote and posted mine before reading any of the other posts in that thread (including Ash’s spoilered part) to try to keep it independent.
I think it’s fine to add to threads up to a month imo. Especially threads with lot’s of traction
“not a guy”
A lot would boil down to not cis normative presentation we were assigned.
The inherent rejection of what is projected onto you. Even if you weren’t aware of it completely.
Yeah! I’m not really sure what to make of what “not a guy”-ness vs overt comfort with traditional femininity means as a broader point in feeling alienated by cisnormativity and patriarchy, but it seems to be a fairly common feeling among trans femme/genderweird AMAB people from what I’ve seen. I’d like to hear more from trans masc/AFAB enbys about some of their experiences like that too, because I don’t think I’ve heard about childhood gendering stuff from the flip side as much.
I feel like this might be projection from my part as someone who’s pretty averse to “conventional masculinity,” but in my own experiences trans masc people seem by and large to have a much healthier and positive understanding of masculinity as something that doesn’t have to reify patriarchy or misogyny than most cis men. Sorry if I’m off base and sound like I’m minimizing any trans mascs’ negative experiences of cisnormativity, but I kinda feel like there’s something to being brought up in a patriarchal culture that polices kids’ gender weirdness against “boys” being “sissies” harsher/differently than “girls” being “tomboys” or “butch.” Would really appreciate learning more about that from a trans masc perspective and sorry if that comes off as ignorant.
I read nothing else from that thread and I am firmly in the “not a guy” camp. I prefer non-binary to agender tho. I don’t really feel any gender about anything about myself but I do have a relatively unique way of self expression. Generally I want to be perceived by myself as what is attractive to me and I’m kind of fem aligned pan? Things give me gender euphoria too, idk. When it comes to relating to other people I simply don’t want to be perceived as a guy.
