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Since then, there have been growing signs of young women rebelling against a culture that prizes erotic license over empathy and responsibility
This is the academic / journalistic equivalent of “many people are saying this!” The US hegemony is so wildly anti-sex that if you think it suffers from excessive ‘prizing (of) erotic license’ I just don’t know how to reply. Maybe certain erotic tastes are allowed / amplified to an excessive degree, but this is against a backdrop of millions more ‘erotic licenses’ getting repressed.
generational battles over free speech are often about whether freedom should take precedence over sensitivity.)
weird framing of the issue. “We aren’t discussing how language reifies certain power relationships, and manipulates the ways we understand ourselves, our desires, and opportunities. No, it’s the freedom-speaking older generations versus sensitive young adults!”
The author doesn’t describe the experience of producing or using porn, except to blame porn for exposing men to stuff that women don’t want to do. This article strikes me as what :citations-needed: would describe as the descriptive to normative shuffle. I mean by the end of it she’s literally calling for new taboos.
The article is conspicuously lacking in research – one quote from one woman at BuzzFeed, a vague TikTok trend (when? how many views? users involved?). weak
This is the academic / journalistic equivalent of “many people are saying this!”
I was going to say this:
who is quickly becoming one of the most high-profile feminist thinkers in the English-speaking world
is code for “we, the pre-eminent English-speaking newspaper, would like this to be the case and are sending the signal to the rest of the media class to give this person a platform.”
i actually remember the exact one they quoted showing up on my fyp back in the spring, as well as a few others like it. All i can say is it had a ton of likes and comments, and considering the rest of my page is all queer/progressive/communist etc I assume thats who was interacting with it but who knows
Sounds like crypto-SWERF propaganda :terf-alert:
Not even crypto, this is puritanical garbage barely disguised with feminist language.
DAE trad hetero-mononormativity is the new counterculture??? :PIGPOOPBALLS:
No, this is just reactionary drek that doesn’t make its own case. There’s probably a case to be made there, but it isn’t present in the text, and there’s certainly no reason to trust Goldberg to represent any position other than reaction.
I think this goes entirely the wrong direction.
Sex positivity was initially fought against by the dominating patriarchal assholes that wanted to control women. They eventually learned however that sex positivity benefits them and they changed their behaviour in order to exploit it.
Now everyone in my gender has experienced some rapey asshole using sex positivity as an excuse for their behaviour, and accusing anyone of rejecting their advances of prudish conservatism. “That’s not very progressive of you” being a line I have specifically heard from someone who would not leave me the fuck alone.
When people have held personal experiences with sex positivity being weaponised by the very people they feel oppressed by of course it ceases to feel liberating. They have experienced it as a tool of control, coercion and sexual pressure to perform for these men.
Counter revolution against sex positivity is an obvious natural result of these experiences. If you experience something negative attached to something, you become negative about it.
Now everyone in my gender has experienced some rapey asshole using sex positivity as an excuse for their behaviour, and accusing anyone of rejecting their advances of prudish conservatism. “That’s not very progressive of you” being a line I have specifically heard from someone who would not leave me the fuck alone.
This has happened some with “kink culture” too, almost any woman can tell you about some man she started dating just suddenly trying to choke/insult/spit during sex without any warning.
And there’s a real big issue with “Doms” who really are just abusive and controlling men who want a 1950’s sex slave, not just some roleplay.
man she started dating just suddenly trying to choke/insult/spit during sex without any warning
Too many times. If you don’t get consent for your kinks before doing them to someone, then what you did wasn’t consensual. It’s waaaay better to get consent before the pants come off in case that is a trigger for your partner. I’ve had men ask “can I choke you?” mid thrust and been able to enthusiastically say yes, but I’m also like that and told them that was cool earlier.
Like it’s good to be open minded, but to have an open mind someone has to fucking talk to you first.
Also during sex kind of blurs lines of consent. A stronger bigger man has you naked and vulnerable. The idea that a real consent can exist in a situation like this is pretty weak. Sexual boundaries should be done in a fair safe and neutral location where all members feel they are fully free to leave without any possibility of backlash or violence.
Elsewise you risk issues with people saying yes, but only because they don’t want you to go even further past that.
“That’s not very progressive of you” being a line I have specifically heard from someone who would not leave me the fuck alone.
The /r/Vaush School of Dating
against callousness and cruelty.
wonder what set of incentives are driving the callousness and cruelty
