This is the part where I hope young people say we are gonna form local connections where we hang out a provide for each other & the local community and make it an essential group of leftist that help each other out and hang out every week end, with the hope it snow balls into something great right? Riiight we aren’t just gonna sit at home on discord and hope sending leftist memes to friends without doing the work of hanging out consistently with people and being integral to a community. Right? We aren’t gonna do that right? We are going to form local social clubs like we use to do right because most people will change their minds to stay in the social club on politics because It directly benefits them.
We definitely won’t read this post and continue to doom scroll insert bad website and be isolated atomized alienated workers who could be hanging out. Notice below the word branch and think about what that means
30 year old virgin. Can confirm. I live in a small city and it’s impossible to meet new people.
Talking to strangers is almost a taboo here in Norway, and most people have completely unrealistic standards for their partners.
It seems my generation has had their expectations of a relationship warped by movies, social media and porn. Listen to any person talk about their preferences in a partner, and it will sound like they are describing a commodity to impress their friends with,instead of a partner to share their life with.
There are no places to meet anyone, no places where you can interact with strangers, and no chance to ever find a partner unless you have a ton of money, movie-like looks and ambitions.
As a neurodivergent working class dude, I’m fucked. And I’m not blaming women or anything. I blame capitalism for destroying our social lives.
I was 28 when I finally lost mine. As far as it being a big deal… it isn’t. The intimacy and companionship is the real reward. I think I have seen 4chan posts before when one loses their virginity and they are kind of devastated realizing it wasn’t the life changing event they had been long told it was. They didn’t feel their “status” change. They didn’t feel themselves ascending or becoming ethereal. They just had some fun for a few minutes (if that).
Ironically the thing that stuck out the most to me when it first happened is that it is kind of awkward.
It is kind of horrifying what the dating scene probably looks like now. It feels like every person I would try to date is going to be a hyper-individualistic and judgemental person that is lashing out at everything social media told them to hate. I feel like inevitably I would end up in their crosshairs. Perhaps I am wrong about the average person, but based on my co-workers that it what it feels like.
Started shooting straight up 2008-2009. Thanks Obama. Slope gets more extreme when Trump gets into office. Hmm
I’m curious to hear what happened between 2006 and 2008 that caused so many folks to get laid.
It could be changing perceptions of masculine sexuality. Like if you were a man 25 years ago, you’ve never admit to virginity. It was a social death sentence, even if you were a kid. You’d be 15 years old and claim you’ve slept with Heather Locklear.
Now maybe younger people care less about exaggerated claims of sexual conquest. Maybe it’s easier to check if someone’s lying too, because of how much of people’s lives are on social media.
It used to be easier to just lie about anything. Now if you claim to have slept with someone as a boast, maybe your peers will ask for pictures or video evidence. Or maybe the perception has changed so having a bunch of partners now seems predatory or sad rather than impressive.
I understand there’s more alienation and loneliness too, but the masculine expectation to lie about sexual partners can’t be understated.
maybe your peers will ask for pictures or video evidence
which is just so creepy
Kind of ironic though, as 25 years ago was the height of the evangelical, abstinence only, promise ring virginity fetishization and demonization of sexual content in the media. Now, the abstinence movement is largely dead, the evangelicals are a shadow of their former self, and sex is everywhere. Yet we got what the evangelicals were looking for, just not in the way they wanted it. Sort of a monkey’s paw curls situation for them.
