I am not going to go thru everything. In part because I am biased, in part because it’s all mixed together memory-wise, in part because I get exhausted thinking about it all lol. But here is my best attempt at a somewhat neutral presentation of what went down. At least the big things.

1. Announcement of minor change - Renaming the dunk/dredgetank + minor change of rules because they were toxic/“chauvinists” (henceforth bigoted, since I’m not from the 50’s). Also want to make our rhetoric better.
2. Users asking questions/arguing against toxicity/bigotry being an inherent trait of the dunk tanks.
3. Vague and at times slightly rude (though they were not intended as such) preprepared answers given by Carcosa (who was funcctioning as a messenger for the modteam. This also leads to carcosa taking all the blame and catching all the flak, which is really not deserved. We love our carcosa admin folks )
4. Critique of the preprepared answers as well as an update to the thread, which didn’t address a lot of users’ issues (though it did address my issue with rhetoric, which I am very grateful for tysm @CARCOSA@hexbear.net)
5. Slow unraveling of the “real” reasons the comms were closed, which did not match the reasons originally presented
6. Now things get bad. The people being supportive of closing the comms dig their heels in. They keep talking about toxicity, but there’s no one who acknowledges the arguments from the opposing side (which I need to underline were presented calmly and politely at this point still.)
7. It becomes clear that it’s not about toxicity, in part as users find out there are mods of the closed comms like @replaceable@hexbear.net who just straight up dislike the comms they moderate.
8. A mod statement is released. It’s bad. People are pissed about being called “white cishet he/hims” and not at all being listened to.
9. A DM is leaked of carcosa some days earlier reaching out to other instances. This has more or less been resolved so don’t think about it more. It wasn’t okay the way it was done, but it was a rational action.
10. People get mad at carcosa for the DM - Which is understandable, but now it’s generally been resolved so please don’t worry about it.**
11. Carcosa announces that they’re stepping down.
12. TC69 and her famed community administration skills step in.
13. People beg carcosa not to step down.
14. Carcosa comes back.
15. TC69 has only made things a lot worse so far. Lots of bans. Basically just the VCJ strugglesesh all over again.
16. @SeventyTwoTrillion@hexbear.net announces they are stepping down.
17. TC69 deletes her account.
18. @Lyudmila@hexbear.net makes this post we are in now.

I am skipping a lot of steps. But this is the basic gist of it as I see it, and seeing as how I was one of the Very Mad Online users, I think it at least gives an idea of how people one “my side” of the fence views the situation. I’ve tried to be somewhat neutral in the presentation of events and moreso just focused on how things unfolded. I did not succeed in this, but if you think this is biased, you should see what I would’ve done if I tried to be biased.

** There are still people around with legitimate grievances about this incident and if they feel like it makes sense I warmly and genuinely welcome them to expand upon those in response to this thread, but my impression is that we have generally moved past this point, so just please take it for granted that it’s not important. If you talk to someone and it sounds important, then look into it, but most people will arrive at the position that it is no longer important, given where we are now at. It was fair to be mad about. It was also a rational action on carcosas’ side. It’s also fair not to find it fair. It is however, subjectively, not a big deal, at least not anymore.