It makes me so mad/sad that this is the modern reality for relationships. At the same time my self esteem is skyrocketing because of all the likes like a casino with bright lights and big numbers but the whole thing feels cheapened. I know there’s more valid reasons to this besides the fact that idk how to text matches but I’m blanking
Are you on the fem side of things? It sucks for everyone. If you’re on the fem side it seems a bit easier, but you still have to wade through all the likes. The app forces you to judge people before ever meeting them and it’s cruel.
Surprisingly I’m a pretty masculine looking dude but yeah the whole looking at someone and deciding off of that is very dumb
Oh ffs is this actually the new norm? I’ve been avoiding it since I’m old (mid thirties) and the entire concept of online dating is kind of foreign to me.
We used to have forums and IRC for these things. IMO worked better than Tinder and the like. There were dating sites back then, and they were super sleazy, and the dating apps from today are just as much, only hiding under a shiny app veneer.
IRC really used to be for hookups? I still use it (for other purposes) and heard things like that before, but I wrote it off as an absurd rumor
Same. I really dislike dating apps, but it seems this is the only way dating and relationships are happening these days, and it feels so … inorganic, broken, idk. I dont want to pick my boyfriend from a fucking catalogue, he is not a product.
It’s horrible, I was just thinking today how I was so set on meeting someone irl, without a stupid app to bridge the gap. I was on tinder etc. for years and just unhappy with the dynamic. It made me incredibly jaded, and I realized I was so much better trying to approach women in person.
Then the pandemic hit, so I hopped back on and it’s even worse now because I feel like a person who I would want to meet would be just as jaded over dating apps and wouldn’t want to use them lmao
Seriously, the entire premise of swiping right if you find someone attractive is literally just to gauge their fuckability. At least Grindr is honest about what it is rather than Tinder which has the features of a hookup app but the community of a regular dating app. I hate how normal dating apps like OkCupid have now redesigned to work as closely to Tinder as possible now too.
