I’m serious, the few girlfriends i’ve had have literally had to ask me to hang out, not vice versa.
I catch women staring at me quite a bit, (that kind of stare, not just generally looking) but i’m too scared to approach at that point and say hi. I’m fairly tall and good looking, just socially akward as a motherfucker.
it sucks ass.
Ask her if she’d take the Volcel pledge with you. If she says no, she’s a reactionary.
Ask her
Spending a lot of time together or making excuses to chat or hang out or staying up late to talk with you
Honestly, you guys are inspiring me to stop waiting for something to happen and just ask a girl the next time I catch her checking me out. I literally remind myself of Hughie from the boys lol. Need to start being more like Frenchie
if you have to ask, she doesn’t
Yeah, I was going to say, I have the aspergers and anything to do with social politics just completely goes over my head a lot of the time. I am clueless AF when it comes to dating and attraction except that I know I find women (trans or cis) attractive.
I don’t know, I don’t think this is correct. As I said, I’ve literally had girlfriends that I had no idea were attracted to me and had to be the ones to ask me to hang out when usually (at least with how society works at the moment) the dude is supposed to be the one who approaches the woman. I have aspergers, anything to do with social situations flys over my head quite a bit of the time.
in the first place, assume that they don’t like you, and that they will not consider liking you until you ask and express interest in them first.
I don’t even have to assume. I’m so clueless I usually have no idea unless I catch them staring at me hard, not just brief glances, that typical stare when you can tell that particular person thinks you’re cute or attractive. Other than that i’ve been very surprised to find certain women have found me attractive.
I would offer the exact opposite approach to this. Assume that everyone is into you. This doesn’t mean continuing to pursue someone who has showed disinterest, but just go into situations assuming that people like you. This approach made a huge difference in my ability to meet people and make friends (or get dates). As long as you’re staying socially aware of cues that people might not like you, there’s no harm in just assuming the positive.
I’m super socially awkward, but having a positive attitude does wonders in meeting people. This switch in framing quite literally changed my life.
I like u :D
