Freudian analysis offers an answer

Freudian analysis always offers an answer. Kind of like fortune cookies.

Unfortunately, we drove off a lot of PoC users before we could have a proper reckoning on that. I think most of us would acknowledge that the site skews extremely white and western and is a shittier experience for some people as a result. That doesn’t mean a few folks won’t lose their shit at the mention of the topic, though.

I would suspect that many of them would identify as progressive because we are explicitly a safe space for minorities.

Me insisting people use my correct pronouns would get me banned for not being civil enough. I am not safe around these unscratched fascists

Beehaw does not tolerate hate speech. Beehaw is an explicitly safe space. We center and promote kindness because that is what we see and love in the world.

Oh my god they think hate speech is when people are mean.

This is a great example of how markets are an abstraction over cruelty. It adds a layer of indirection between the people doing the exploiting and the people who are exploited. A decentralized version of the dynamic Graeber describes in Debt where conquering nations would spare a city’s lives and label their plundering of that city as a form of debt that must be “voluntarily” paid.

You take something some people are doing, prohibit them from doing it, and if they complain, you act like they’re living outside of their means or being irresponsible, despite their behavior not changing.

Realizing that my state is going to receive an influx of genocidal conservatives in the near future

The actual list is as follows (I believe it’s ranked by global score)

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@kristina - 15048 Comments

@Nakoichi - 15500 Comments

@Frank - 20169 Comments

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@SoyViking - 10929 Comments

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@buh - 9787 Comments

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Trans rights is when trans people can’t take a shit and the less a shit of shit we’re allowed to take the more trans rights it is and if we can’t take enough shits it’s gender abolition

Potential explanations for this behavior:

1. Confirmation bias
2. The father is quicker to complement the daughter
3. The mother is quicker to criticize the daughter
4. The mother already knows how pretty the hair is because she was the one brushing it
5. The mother was taking pictures of the process and seemed distracted
6. The father participates in less care tasks (brushing hair can uncomfortable and boring and explaining why it’s necessary can be upsetting, so if the mother is taking on all that work, the father gets off the hook implicitly and doesn’t suffer the negative backlash)
7. The father is normally the one who brushes her hair
8. This behavior is modeled by the mother showing off her hair to the father

Note that none of these explanations involve the innate sexual preferences and desires of literal children

Just another example of cishet people treating our existence as some intellectual chess game on which all sides are merely competing in the marketplace of ideas. Pride is not about my “beliefs about gender, sexuality, and identity”. I’m not writing fucking gender theory papers the entire month (well, I might, but it’s unrelated). It’s about celebrating a history of perseverance in the face of adversity. It’s about resisting the backlash that happens whenever we see even the most timid representation and visibility of queer people. It’s about looking at the current repression of the ability of queer people to access adequate healthcare and tying it to the rich history of resistance and activism that’s occurred over the past 100 years.